Imagine two single drops of water sitting on a window sill. Picture them only a few millimeters apart. Now keep your eyes on them as they slowly start moving towards each other and then touch… What happens?
The 2 single drops of water come together and transform themselves into a single…bigger… drop of water.
Now at first glance you may think that this is a worthless observation. But let’s think about this for a second. Both know exactly what they are made of (who they are) 2 Hydrogen and 1 Oxygen – H2O
And as they come together to form this new relationship neither one leaves any of it behind. This new relationship now contains 4 Hydrogen and 2 Oxygen. H2O+H2O=4H2O
The Impossible Relationship
Now let’s leave those 2 aside for a second and look at another attempt to form a relationship.
Let’s imagine for a second another single drop of water and a drop of oil. As they get closer and try to merge together what do you think happens to them? Well we all know that water and oil don’t mix… so wouldn’t it be true to imagine that the best that they could do is simply stay side by side to one another? H2O+OIL= H2O/OIL
- Isn’t there something for us to learn here?
- Do we sometimes feel the need to sacrifice parts of who we are just so we can try to make a relationship work?
- Do we even know who we are or what’s important to us?
- And what about the other person… do we even know who they are and what’s important for them?
On one end you have this Perfect Relationship where both understand each other and accept the other for who they are and together they create something bigger and better that their individual selves.
On the other end you have an Impossible Relationship where the best that they could possibly come up with to try to fake some kind of relationship is to hold on to each other while they both remain exactly who they were before… only now they have someone latched on to them.
The reality is that we live in an imperfect world. This means that we are never going to have a Perfect Relationship. But maybe we can use this Analogy as a way to measure the quality of each one of those Relationships. Improve or change the ones that displease us… and grow the ones that fulfill us.